Giving Up Control

Something I’ve noticed with myself lately is that I’ve started this journey to gather a community and spread God’s word.  And I’ve just run off with it at times, without even stopping to ask the big guy if that’s the direction he wants me to go.

Sometimes in life we need to stop and do just that.  Ask the big guy what he wants us to do and stop trying to control everything around us.  If we truly learned to let go, and let God, our lives puzzle pieces would just fall into place.

As mothers, especially, this is way easier said than done.  We’re so used to taking the reins and leading or families through this circus called life, even when we need God the most, we still don’t let go.  Yes, it’s scary to say, “Hey big papa.  I’m fine trying it my way.  Take the reins and lead on.”  But why is it scary?

It’s scary because we don’t have or hands in it.  It’s scary because we don’t understand the outcome, or can’t perceive it.  However, we need to remember, our Father will never let us down or lead us astray.  He loves us more deeply than we can imagine, and if we think about that total instead of the fear that tries to creep in, then we can truly see what God has in store for us.  We can live the life he intended us to live.

We need to be patient, and understand our prayers will be answered.  And we also need to remember that sometimes we need that spiritual reminder whether it’s from a sister, a friend, a church member, our even a pastor.  (Yes even a pastor.  They don’t bite, and they are people just like us so don’t freak out and avoid this path because it may be just what you need.)

So give up that control. Ask for help if you need it.  You never know, one day soon, you may return the favor. Leave a comment below for help or guidance, whether giving or receiving.

(Quick thanks to Inni Bug.  Reality checks are always welcome!)



Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

You may be wondering why I’m worrying about forgiveness today.  Well, recent events remind me of this a lot.  All the anger and hatred going around is only being fueled more.  Often people wonder why you should forgive someone.  Especially if they have wronged you in a way you feel inexcusable.

The question is often, “Why?  Why should I forgive that person?  He did this to me.”  However, to forgive someone will free you of the burden of the anger and hate that sits and will fester, just like an untreated wound.  If we hold on to that anger, it allows the enemy a foothold and will always hold you back.

Then there is the other side of the coin.  I talked about doing a kindness to someone you would not normally do.  Sometimes the kindness and love of forgiveness will open a door in the life of that person you forgave.  Giving them the opportunity to heal and grow in ways we may not imagine.  Truly forgiveness is loving your neighbor.

If we all practiced forgiveness more often, the enemy then loses that foothold called hate.  They can no longer grasp that grudge and hold you down.  To forgive, yes frees the one in need of forgiveness.  But it also frees us of our burdens that we hold in our hearts.


Looking Back

Sometimes in life we take a look back at what we are going through and what has happened in the past.  And, as long as we are not living in the past, this is a great time to reflect.  Someone recently reminded me of a poem I’d like to share with everyone:landscape Sunset

People come into your path for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a dificulty…
To provide you with guidance and support…
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually…
They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die…
Sometimes they walk away…
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand….
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled…
Their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON.
Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons.
Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life…
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime

~ unknown author

God leads us in the direction we are meant to be lead.  Sometimes we wander off the path.  He tries to lead us back with the many different things.  For myself, I have a motto, I wouldn’t be who I am today without what I was back then.  I wouldn’t have what I have now, if I didn’t go through what I have gone through.  With all that in mind…good or bad, thank you to all the people I’ve had in the past.  Whether they were a reason, season, or a lifetime.  And, a special thanks to the lifers.  God knows you have your work cut out for you.

Blaze Bug, you are, as always, a wonderful inspiration.

Leave a comment below to share some of your experiences or even just to send a thanks to someone…reason, season, or lifetime.


Lately the country is feeding off of all this violence, racism, and separation.  During all the violence that is going on in the world, the worst thing we could do right now is divide.

Now is the time we need to remember the song that most of us learned when we were younger…


Jesus loves the little children

All the children of the world

Red and yellow, black and white

They are precious in his sight

Jesus loves the little children if the world


(Did you sing this when you read it?  I did!)

Racism is taught. We are not born with this hatred.  We spread it like a disease.

God created us all like snowflakes.  All with a purpose, but none the same.  We sparkle and shine in the light, and melt in the heat.

I challenge you to shine that light on someone you would normally just pass right by.  Lift up your head and look.  Pass that kindness on.  Actively choose to do a kind act to someone at least one time a day.

Further more, for Facebook users.  While we are posting about our days and opinions, share something uplifting.  Share a story of love, compassion, empathy, and togetherness.  You never know who you will touch, but I guarantee you will touch someone.

The news has sensationalized all the hate, let’s sensationalize compassion.  Let’s spread the only cure to the disease called hate…Let’s spread love and kindness…compassion.

Leave a comment below to share more kindness.