This past week we have done vacation bible school. Also, we were blessed with a friend’s daughter, who is teaching at summer camps, about God to children as well. This is something that she has been doing and inspired in me to bring to you.
Judges 16 tells the story of Samson and Delilah, and of how the Philistines paid Delilah to find out why Samson was so strong, and how to take his strength from him so they could capture him.
Delilah asked Samson, in Judges 16:6-17, why he was so strong, and how to capture him. She asked Samson 3 times, and each time Samson lied. However, she kept at him, and persisted to nag at him, and the fourth time he finally told her:
She nagged at him every day until he couldn’t stand it any longer and finally told her his secret. “My hair has never been cut,” he confessed, “for I’ve been a Nazirite to God since before my birth. If my hair were cut, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as anyone else.”
So….Why Didn’t He Leave?
Why did Samson allow this to happen. He knew what was likely to happen, because in the first three times she had asked, and he replied with a like. Delilah actually tested out and called upon the Philistines to come and get him. So, why did he stay? Why didn’t he just pick up and leave? Why did he just give in?
Yes, he was tired of her nagging at him, however, there were other courses of action he could have taken.
Do We Do This With Our Children?
How many times do we do this with our children? “Mommy, I want a candy…” the buggies will repeatedly ask. You know you are cooking dinner. You’ve had a long day. They act like you never feed them, even though they just had their snack not long ago, and they know dinner is on the way, and all we really want is five seconds of peace. But, they keep asking, nagging, persistently for that candy. What do we do? Well, often times we give in.
What Does This Teach Our Buggies?
What does it teach them? It teaches them that we have limits. You may be saying, isn’t it good to show that we have feelings and limits? Well yes, however, some things we have to stand our ground. Explain to that buggy that they have a choice. They can either go play and wait as patiently as possible for dinner, as it will be done soon. Or they can have a punishment, but candy is out of the question for the moment.
It is right to show our children that everyone has limits. However, we need to show them that there is a time and place for everything. We also need to show them how to take themselves out of a situation, that could become sticky. Candy isn’t always the priority. And, as they grow, they will ask for more. Eventually you will have to let them learn some things on their own.
If we teach them to think on this first, when they are younger, they can carry it with them as they are older. That way, if they ever find themselves in the position of Samson, they can learn to find a way away from their Delilah, instead of getting trapped by their Philistines.
Leave me a comment below with some of your examples!