Why Didn’t Samson Leave?

This past week we have done vacation bible school.  Also, we were blessed with a friend’s daughter, who is teaching at summer camps, about God to children as well.  This is something that she has been doing and inspired in me to bring to you.

Judges 16 tells the story of Samson and Delilah, and of how the Philistines paid Delilah to find out why Samson was so strong, and how to take his strength from him so they could capture him.

Delilah asked Samson, in Judges 16:6-17, why he was so strong, and how to capture him.  She asked Samson 3 times, and each time Samson lied.  However, she kept at him, and persisted to nag at him, and the fourth time he finally told her:

Judges 16:16-17

She nagged at him every day until he couldn’t stand it any longer and finally told her his secret.  “My hair has never been cut,” he confessed, “for I’ve been a Nazirite to God since before my birth.  If my hair were cut, my strength would leave me, and I would become as weak as anyone else.”

So….Why Didn’t He Leave?

Why did Samson allow this to happen.  He knew what was likely to happen, because in the first three times she had asked, and he replied with a like.  Delilah actually tested out and called upon the Philistines to come and get him.  So, why did he stay? Why didn’t he just pick up and leave?  Why did he just give in?

Yes, he was tired of her nagging at him, however, there were other courses of action he could have taken.

Do We Do This With Our Children?

How many times do we do this with our children?  “Mommy, I want a candy…”  the buggies will repeatedly ask.  You know you are cooking dinner.  You’ve had a long day.  They act like you never feed them, even though they just had their snack not long ago, and they know dinner is on the way, and all we really want is five seconds of peace.  But, they keep asking, nagging, persistently for that candy.  What do we do?  Well, often times we give in.

What Does This Teach Our Buggies?

What does it teach them?  It teaches them that we have limits.  You may be saying, isn’t it good to show that we have feelings and limits?  Well yes, however, some things we have to stand our ground.  Explain to that buggy that they have a choice.  They can either go play and wait as patiently as possible for dinner, as it will be done soon.  Or they can have a punishment, but candy is out of the question for the moment.

It is right to show our children that everyone has limits.  However, we need to show them that there is a time and place for everything.   We also need to show them how to take themselves out of a situation, that could become sticky.  Candy isn’t always the priority.  And, as they grow, they will ask for more.  Eventually you will have to let them learn some things on their own.

If we teach them to think on this first, when they are younger, they can carry it with them as they are older.  That way, if they ever find themselves in the position of Samson, they can learn to find a way away from their Delilah, instead of getting trapped by their Philistines.

Leave me a comment below with some of your examples!

Pay It Forward

We’ve all heard of pay it forward, to spread kindness.  I’ve talked about one soul at a time to save the world.  If we treat this the same.  If we teach the good word and bring one person to Jesus, and that person, “paid it forward,” and so on.  This will create a ripple effect.

John 15:5

To whom much is given, much is expected.

John 13:34

Love one another as I have loved you

Here is a great little movie for inspiration called “Waiting for the Wind.”

Scatter Brain

Hello to all of you!!!  I know it may seem like things are a bit scattered.  It looks as if I have slowed a bit, and in all actuality I have a bit.  However, behind the scenes I have been working on a few things more.  Currently I have started a new Facebook page so it is easier to see, comment, share, and react to everything.  That way it is easier to come in contact here on Busy Buggies as well.  So, let’s spread the word and stretch our community out.

Then, I’ve started a forum for all of us to get a bit more specific in areas.  This way we can connect in more areas, and break things down even further to help each other.  You do need to register on the forums to participate.  They are also under construction, so bear with me as I go through and make them a bit more user-friendly and test them out as we go.

There are a few other things I have in the works, but as I am unsure of how long it will or will not take to get them off the ground, I’m going to keep them under my hat until they are further along.  With that being said…

What do you do when your brain runs wild with ideas?

When you have so many things going on in your head that you can’t stop thinking about anything, and it is stopping you from concentrating on getting things done.  So much so that you are literally running circles around your house and not really getting things done.  Does this really happen?  Absolutely.  Don’t believe me?  You should see my house right now!  I can really get going so badly that I get overwhelmed with what needs to be done, and what I want to do, as well as what I cannot do…  It is so overwhelming it can be debilitating.  Anyone that tells you differently has never experienced this.

When this happens it isn’t something you can control, so shutting it off, and picking a spot and going is just not a possibility.  Praying about it is my first answer, always.  Here I am…”Dear God, please help me to focus on getting my house cleaned, and help me figure out how I can figure this plan, and oh yeah, thanks for…and what do you think of….,”  So, even God gets an earful.  I’ve tried shuffling the children off outside so that I  can focus with out the, “mommy, mommy, mommy,”  My husband has taken the kids to the park for me to concentrate, and even this has led to me with a full notebook and only light housework done.  So, does this circle ever end?

What does it feel like?

When this happens, it is often said you should make a list of the things that are going through your head of the things you need and want to do.  Then check off the things you have gotten done.  So, you end up making a list that often is a page long.  And you may only check off a quarter of the page.  By the end of the day you feel like you haven’t accomplished a thing.  You look back on the day, and your house and think, where has the day gone, and how did not get anything done!!!  What DID I do with my day.OMG

Something I noticed.

Yes, I write my lists to help focus myself.  They do help.  However, it takes more than writing what is in my head at the time I write them, then checking it off later.  You also have to write down what you did that is not on your list.  So, you have your, “To Do” list and your, “To Done” list.  For instance, among my dishes, laundry, sweeping, vacuuming, writing, yard work, organizing, and other wifely and motherly duties I have to add in, fixing the neighbor’s T.V. and nebulizer.  Or walking down and checking out what that scary noise was for my friend in the middle of the night, while I’m doing my night owl cleaning or creative time.

Then you have to include how many drop in visitors you had during the day, where you had to entertain instead of clean or work on your other things.  How many breaks you took because you didn’t realize how much energy one thing would take and you over did it.  Or just because you overwhelmed yourself again.  Even because you are dreading starting another thing, so you took that extra cigarette break.

Another thing I do not account for, personally, is how long it may or may not take for researching something, or making all those phone calls to schedule those doctors appointments, arrange rides, find baby sitters, look for car parts for your husbands, and (of course) make the fun calls to the family members you don’t get to see often, so you are on the phone for hours wandering the house randomly, not doing anything, but doing everything in the process.

What to do?

Make that list.  The one that is a mile long of what is in your head.  It really is helping.  But, like I said, don’t forget to write your to done list.  You need to be sure that you are recording both what is in your head and what you have actually done.  Also, record what is going on in the day.  If you had 10 visitors, then write that down.  If you made 20 calls that day, write that down too.  Record the amount of breaks you took, but take that one a step further, and write down why you took that break.  Especially if they are smoke breaks.  Write down how you felt when you took those breaks.  You may be surprised at the end of the day, when you read what you wrote during the day.

Then, when all is said and done, at the end of the day, do your day’s end routine, and shut the lights off in your house, lock the doors, and DO NOT stand back and look at the mess left behind.  DO NOT dwell on what you could not get to.  Trust me, it isn’t going to grow legs and walk away.   Set that notebook aside, and leave it for the morning, and DO NOT think about what you did or did not do during the day.  Just worry about getting an actual good night’s rest for once.  You would be surprised what a lack of sleep would get you.  (Somewhere out there my sister is reading this and rolling laughing saying, “FOR SURE!!!”)

In the morning, after you have gotten ready for the day, when you sit down for your morning cup of coffee, and start your morning list, then go through it.  Look at how your day went.  Look at WHY your day went like that.  Then, when you write your new daily list, you can figure out why you are having that problem catching up with your brain.

It will take time.  This will never solve itself over night.  Also, there are plenty of times that medical help is needed.  DO NOT feel ashamed if you need to ask your doctor for help.  And, do not wait until you have a nervous break down to do it.  Things like this create extra unneeded stress.  Stress can do many, many nasty things to our bodies.  It does not make us weak to ask for professional help.  As I’ve said in the past, I am, in no way, a professional.  You should never take my advice over your doctor’s advice.  If this is a serious problem, please, GO TO YOUR DOCTOR!!!

All in all

Yes, I’ve been a bit scattered lately.  But not as much as you might think.  I haven’t forgotten all my buggies out there.  I’m working to make things easier to communicate, and hope to expand our community so we all can help each other and connect even more.  I’ve done this by creating new forums as well as a Facebook group.

Also, you are not the only scatter brained buggy mommy out there.  So, you don’t have to feel lonely or singled out anymore.  Hang in there, mama.  We’re here.  Leave me a comment below to let me know how you deal with some of your scatter brain issues.

Tools for Making Spices

The main thing for spices is dehydrating.  There are many ways to make spices, including freeze drying, dehydrating, or even freezing to use as fresh as possible at a later date.  I’ve gone through the dehydrating process.  There are a few ways you can dehydrate food.  You can use your oven as a dehydrator, you can build an outdoor dehydrator or sun dry your herbs and spices, and you can use a plain old dehydrator.

How to Choose Your Tools

First of all, you have to decide if dehydrating your own things is your niche.  It is a slow process, and it does take patience.  Frankly, it can take a lot of money if you really start getting into it.  This is why I didn’t start off with the freeze drying method, as that does take a lot of money, even for the cheaper route.  So, how do you decide if dehydrating your own herbs and spices is your thing?  Well, you try it, of course.

Now, don’t just go out and buy a dehydrator, or invest in a bunch of things that are going to clutter up your home and yard, to make an outside dehydrator that you may never use.  There are two cheap and easy ways to figure out if this is your thing.  The best way is if you know someone who has a dehydrator that you can borrow.  Please, if you are using someone else’s equipment, get some information from them on how to use it, so you don’t wreck it.  Also, keep track of all of the parts, so you can return it when you are done.

Decide what you want to dehydrate first.  I chose fruits to start with.  Something as easy as lemons to slice to add into your sun tea when you brew it, can be easy, fun, and, most importantly, yummy!  You slice it up, lay it on the trays, place the top on, plug it in, turn it on, and walk away.  Of course, you will need to check on it periodically.  Also, you will need to make sure that you shuffle the trays so that the air and heat are being distributed evenly so that it is all done together.  Then, soon enough, you have dried lemon slices.

What if I Don’t Have Access to a Dehydrator?

Well, not all of us know people with a dehydrator.  However, luck should have it, that if you own an oven, you have a tool that you can use already.  Once you have your recipe, all you need to do is set your oven up, place your fruit on a wax or parchment paper lined cookie sheet and place it in the oven.  And that should be that, right?

Not quite.  I learned, while trying this out myself, that you need to have your oven door cracked open so that the air can flow through.  I also learned that not all ovens are created equal.  Meaning, you can’t just set the temp and walk away like you can with a dehydrator.  I actually spent quite a bit of time playing around, finding the correct temperature.  I arranged my oven racks so that I could hang my candy thermometer inside the oven in the middle of the oven to get the temperature.  I set the temperature to the approximate 135, or where I thought it should be anyhow.  Then I allowed it ample time to adjust.  I allowed it anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes, because I really couldn’t get it through my family’s heads to stop shutting the oven door.

Once I finally got it to the correct temperature, I started putting things in.  The difference here is that you have to come back periodically to manually move your fruits and vegetables around so that all sides get the proper air flow and heat to them so they don’t burn or spoil.  Don’t get discouraged if you burn it the first few tries.  I burnt it a few times myself.  This takes a lot of time and patience, however, when you are done, it looks so pretty!!!  And they taste wonderful.

So, take some time to try it out, and leave me a comment below to tell me how your experience went and what you thought of your product afterwards.

Let Go of Fear and Anger

God speaks to us all the time.  We just don’t always hear it.  We are deaf from fear, anger, and other worldly things.  This brings me to what God inspired me to share with you today about Jonah.

Jonah actually has his own book in the Old Testament in the Bible.  I honestly thought it was buried among another book, so I felt a little silly when I went to look it up, and there he was.  It really isn’t a long book, and the children’s version of the story tells the majority of it.  However, do we know why?

God had told Jonah to go to the city of Nineveh:

Jonah 1: 2

“Go to the great city of Nineveh, and give them this announcement from the Lord.  ‘I am going to destroy you, for your wickedness rises before me; it smells to the highest heaven.'”

This is how the story begins.  Nineveh was a dangerous place, and Jonah was terrified.  This is why he tried to defy God, and took off to Tarshish instead.  God set the storm, while Jonah was sleeping aboard a ship.  It was the captain and crew who sacrificed Jonah to the sea to stop the storm, and upon throwing him overboard and repenting, the storm stopped.  God then ordered a whale to swallow Jonah up.  He spent 3 days and 3 nights in the belly of the whale.  It was not until after he prayed and repented that he was spit out on the shore.

From there Jonah went to Nineveh, as God had sent him originally.  When Jonah went to this very large city to preach the word, and warn them of the doom about to come upon them, the city repented.  The King ordered everyone, even the animals, to not drink or eat, and to cry out for mercy from God.  To turn from their evil ways of violence and robbery, and hope that God would forgive them and spare them.

When God saw what the people of Nineveh did, he forgave them and abandoned his plan to destroy them.  This angered Jonah.  He wished for death, because he was angry that he even had to come to Nineveh to announce this impending doom.  He claimed he knew that God would forgive them, and this was why he ran away to begin with.

So, how many of us have run away from something because we were afraid?  Then, how many of us have been angry because those who have sinned were forgiven?  Why should we be angry that our God is full of kindness and love and mercy?  We should be joyous!  Rejoice in his name that we are ALL forgiven.  We all sin.  We all fall off the path.  We all run and hide when we are scared, and we all fall and skin our knees.  Yet, we are all forgiven.  We are all given that second and third and fourth chance.  So, why is it, when another gets that same chance that we get angry.

We have it set in our minds that each sin is different.  Held to a different standard.  It is not.  In the eyes of the Lord, all of our sins are equal, just as we are all equal.  We all must repent and ask forgiveness.  Also, since we have all sinned, then how are we to judge others?

Matthew 7: 1-4

“Don’t criticize, and then you won’t be criticized.  For others will treat you as you treat them.  And why worry about a speck in the eye of a brother when you have a board in your own?  Should you say, ‘Friend, let me help you get that speck out of your eye,’ when you can’t even see because of the board in your own?”

Let us stop being angry for those being forgiven for the speck or even board in their eye.  Let us see the board in ours, and remove it.  Then we can really get down and help others the way God intended.  With love, kindness, and forgiveness.

Have you ever been angry for someone who has been forgiven?  Have you ever been forgiven and had someone angry at you for this?  Leave a comment below to tell us about your experience, and how God guided you through it.