Starting this week I’m going to start talking about mommy care. One thing a lot of us mommies do, even if we are not sick, in pain, or depressed; we tend to focus so much on our children and forget about ourselves. We figure if the buggies are well taken care of, then that is all that matters. When we add in the illness, pain, or depression, (one, two, or all three of them) this becomes more of just the reason we get out of bed. When I say that, I mean that a lot of us in this position figure if it weren’t for the buggies then you wouldn’t be there, so why bother with ourselves when all that really matters in the world is them.
Although it is a great thing that we are taking care of our buggies, we often forget that if we don’t care for ourselves, then one day we could end up not being able to take care of the buggies. Then what? Also, if we take care of ourselves, we end up making more energy to put into our buggies and our jobs as housewives. It gives us that little extra pick me up in the mornings, through the day, and an easier slowdown into the evening and night. You may even find yourself feeling more into your married or hubby time.
When we stop taking care of ourselves, we are allowing ourselves to start down that dark path of depression. And depression will hurt you and your family life eventually. Often times other people look at mothers that are practically crying out for help with their lack of care for themselves, as nothing. Some even go as far as name calling or worse…saying that we are bad mothers. This just adds to that depression, because we end up feeling like we can’t even take care of our children right.
So, what do we do?
This is where I tell you to stop it. Stop listening to other people talk badly and judge you on how and who you are. You are a good mother, and deep down you know it. But by letting ourselves go, we just don’t feel like we’re good at anything.
So, how do we start?
I’ve already gone over your morning prayer thanking God for all your gifts. We’ve gone over doing your morning routine including putting on your make up. But, what do you do before your make up? Sometimes we shower, or wash our faces, and or put on moisturizer.
So, there it is. Washing our faces can do wonderful things. It cleans away debris, brings out the nasty oils and dirt that have sunk in our pores. But, if you were crying and you were trying to calm down, what is the first thing you do? You go wash your face. If your tired and want to wake up, you wash your face. If you feel sick to your stomach, you wash your face. We wash our face or put water on our face for many reasons, and most of it revolves around, “washing the stress off,” is what I like to call it.
In the mornings, I have a hard time with the waking up thing. So, the first thing I go for is the coffee. Even the smell of coffee has an eye-opening aroma. But, the coffee grounds also help clean your face and exfoliate as well. So, with this in mind, and after reading about a million things about sugar and salt scrubs I made my own facial scrub with coffee. Unfortunately, as normal, I always just start tossing things together.
So, I will give you a recipe for it, but I may come back later to adjust it, so that it is the exact measurements. Also, this recipe is only mostly natural, as the beeswax I use is a hair product, so it has petroleum jelly in it. You can replace that with regular beeswax though.
- 3 Tbsp. Beeswax
- 2 Tbsp. Olive Oil
- 1 Tbsp. Coconut Oil
- 2 Tbsp. Honey
- 3 Tbsp. Coffee Grounds
- 7 Drops Lavender Essential Oil
- 3 Drops Tea Tree Oil
- Melt the beeswax and coconut oil in a double boiler on the stove. (alternative way is in the microwave 30 seconds at a time, another alternative way is to use a sauce pot with water in the bottom, and a glass bowl that fits on the top of the sauce pan. (<-that’s how I do mine))
- Remove from the head and mix in the olive oil, honey, and coffee grounds. Until they are fully mixed together.
- Add in your Lavender and Tea Tree Essential Oils, and mix well.
- Pour mixture into a reseal able bowl. (I used an old plastic gelatin bowl, but it is actually better to use a glass bowl or jar.) And let sit until cools. Do not cover until it has cooled fully and has solidified to keep water out of the mixture.
Dip your fingers into your bowl (or jar) and scoop out about 2 tsp. or more (depending on how you feel), and rub into your face in circular motion.
Let it sit for 5 to 10 minutes.
Take a warm or hot wash rag and let it sit on your face for 1 to 2 minutes.
Then gently rub off.
Your face may be slightly oily afterwards, don’t worry about that. Let it dry, then the oil will soak into your face, moisturizing it as well.
Once your face has dried, go ahead and apply your make up.
Try it out, and leave me a comment to let me know what you think.